Much has been written about the terrible events that unfolded August 12 in Charlottesville, Virginia. For some of us this event struck home – literally. Our family lives just a few blocks from where the violence took place. While my wife and children left town Friday on a long-planned visit to see extended family, I stayed behind. It was an eerie Saturday morning. Walking to the [...]
Hal Movius' article about workplace confrontation in Fast Company Magazine shows with a little resolve and a willingness to wade into conflict rather than shrink from it, you can actually build more collaborative partnerships than you'd otherwise think. Read the full article here.
From Slate: Hal Movius explains that we shouldn’t be afraid of conflict in negotiation, that it can actually produce good outcomes—but only if we can be smarter about it. I asked him to help walk me through the pitfalls and opportunities for Democrats attempting to negotiate and govern at a time when such negotiating will happen from a position of total weakness. Read the entire article [...]
Hal Movius appeared on Vancouver radio recently to discuss confidence in the workplace. You can listen here. The discussion with Hal starts around the 23 minute mark.
Ethics is a hot topic these days, and (sadly) for good reason. There is little sign that greater emphasis on ethics and compliance has led to better behavior, at least judging from recent headlines. Ethicalsystems.org is an inspiring organization that is trying to understand how to foster more effective ways to promote ethical reasoning and action. Its team of research collaborators includes Dan Ariely, Jon Haidt, [...]
Do you practice mindfulness? Here's an interesting piece questioning the evidence that it is effective. Here’s how I think about it: mindfulness is an emotion-focused coping strategy (one that tries to help us escape or modify our emotions in the moment); evidence suggest these strategies can be helpful when we face a situation that cannot be changed. When we face a situation that CAN potentially be [...]
From an article, "How People Learn to Be Resilient" by Maria Konnikova in the New Yorker: “Frame adversity as a challenge, and you become more flexible and able to deal with it, move on, learn from it, and grow. Focus on it, frame it as a threat, and a potentially traumatic event becomes an enduring problem; you become more inflexible, and more likely to be negatively [...]
Much will be written about the 2016 Presidential election. Its outcome signaled a realignment in political coalitions but also reflected an increasingly balkanized information environment, with people reading and watching sources that reinforced their beliefs and emotions. For some people in America – at least half, if the polls are right – the morning of 11/9 was a kind of traumatic echo or bookend to the events [...]
John Gottman Psychologist John Gottman has been researching relationships for more than four decades, and in recent years the popular media have taken notice of his findings. Accounts of his work have often emphasized the four “horsemen” in communication patterns that signal trouble for marriages: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. But we sometimes lose sight of the positive communication patterns that correlate with marital [...]
Quick: would you rather Be stuck overnight in an airport with no place to sleep Raise an issue with a friend when it might lead to a fight or argument Argue with a roommate If you’re like 330 adults I surveyed this summer on MTurk, Amazon’s research tool, all three are equally unpleasant. Surprised? I admit I was. Sure, some forms of conflict – spirited debate, [...]